Give Thanks to Your Partner- Part 2

Last week, I shared with you a toy that partners can use together. A toy that you normally wouldn't think of  as a couples toy. This week I thought I would share with you another fun toy for any couple out there looking to spice things up and build trust in your relationship. At some point in virtually every relationship there is a conversation with your partner where you discuss the option of getting tied up during sex. Sometimes there is a strong interest and sometimes there isn't. For most people the reason they say, "no way" is because they fear being tied up and having their partner leave them tied to the bed while they leave the room. We have all seen this scenario in a tv show or movie at some point. It is for this very reason that a company called Sportsheets came to be. The founder wanted to create light bondage gear that was not only easy to use but easy to escape from. This give both partners a sense of control even while building a fantasy involving bondage. Check out a couple of fun toys you can try with your partner. Enjoying bondage without fear.

Under the Bed Restraints

These amazing straps go under your mattress and provide an anchor on your bed to connect your cuffs to. They are easy to install and can be tucked under your mattress when not in use. Now you don't have to have the perfect bed to have some bondage fun. Pretty cool if you ask me. The cuffs that sportsheets makes are all velcro and easy to remove even if you are the one wearing them. They attach to the Under The Bed Restraints with a small double sided hook. (like the kind at the end of a dog leash). Trust me when I say these restraints are some of the best and easiest to use on the market. Sportsheets thinks of everything! 

When you are ready to move your sex life from the bed to other areas of the house Sportsheets has you covered there as well. They have all kinds of fun toys that you can use just about everywhere. They even have a line of toys designed for sex in the shower.

Sex in the Shower Dual Locking Handle

Get a handle on your sex life while enjoying a fun and playful shower with your partner. This handle gives you something to hold onto while getting into just the right position for shower sex. It gets slippery in the shower but now you can bang without the fear of falling.

Sex in the Shower Foot Rest

Hike you leg up and let your lover enter from behind. This nifty foot rest helps you get into all the right positions for fun sexual play in the shower.

Vibrating Sponge

Last but not least, add a little buzz to your scrub a dub dub. This vibrating sponge has a hidden vibrator that will help you get off while getting it on in the shower.

Time to Give Thanks

Thanksgiving is fast approaching and now is a good time to give thanks to your lover for all the exciting play you have had all year long. Given the fact that I am doing a month long "Giveaway A Day" at the Dildo Whisperer Online Store there is no better time to get to shopping for a gift for your partner in crime. Every one is different when it come to sex and the toys they like which is why I am going to be doing a series of "Thank You" inspired gift ideas that you can buy and use with your partner. So let's get started, shall we?

Sidekick

I know you are thinking to yourself how can a masturbation sleeve be a couples toy? Men love blow jobs. They love it even more when their partner swallows their load. There is just something about the feeling that makes just about every man feel satisfied. But not everybody likes to swallow and some times our mouths just aren't designed to fit a whole penis in them. So for that reason Dildo Whisperer follower I present to you the Sidekick. Pick one of these lil guys up and before you know it you will completely change how you give a blow job or a hand job for the better.

Let's talk about how to use it. When giving a hand job or a blow job with the help of Sidekick you want to make sure that you put a little lube inside it so it slides on nice and smooth. Try to avoid getting the lube on the outside of it or your hands because that can make handling this toy a little challenging. For Blow Jobs use your favorite flavored lube so everything tastes a lil better. Once you slide the Sidekick on your man's shaft you can get to work stroking up and down. If just giving a Hand Job remember to focus on the head of the penis as well as the shaft. For Blow Jobs use one hand to stroke this shaft with the Sidekick while your mouth focuses on the head of his penis. This will give him full coverage and the sensation of being deep throated without you having to worry about a pesky gag reflex. When your man is getting ready to climax take your hand and wrap your fingers around the Sidekick at the base of his cock. Your hand is going to be operating as a make shift cock ring for a few seconds. Using your other hand keep moving the Sidekick up and down his shaft. Seconds before he comes grab the top portion of the Sidekick pulling it up over the head of his penis. This will create a suction inside the Sidekick that will literally SUCK the cum right out of your guy. He will get the sensation of the "swallowing" of his load with out you actually having to swallow. Pretty cool huh?

For more fun Couples tips keep coming back to the blog all month long as I share more Give Thanks To Your Partner sex tips and don't forget I am doing a "Giveaway A Day" every day all month long to shoppers of the Dildo Whisperer Online Store. So shop now for your chance to win a great prize!

If you have a question for the Dildo Whisperer email her at romaine@eatromaine.com or shop at her online toy store at www.eatromaine.com.

NOVEMBER!!! A Giveaway -- A DAY!!!

That's right folks! November is here and it is time for the biggest Dildo Whisperer Giveaway YET!! I don't know about you but I can't believe that it is November already. That means that the Dildo Whisperer Online Store has been up and running for 1 year!! Through out this past year I have learned a lot. Like people don't buy as many sex toys in the summer because they are spending all their free time outside and not indoors having sex. Who knew? I have also learned that more and more people are giving sex toys as gifts to their friends, partners and sometimes they just buy a gift for themselves. But the most important thing I have learned this year dear Dildo Whisperer follower is that you LOVE BIG GIVEAWAYS!!!

So let's get to giving stuff away shall we? Let me tell you how it is going to work. There are 30 days in the month of November and I will be giving away a prize each and EVERY day all month long. Every day I will look at the people who have ordered on that day and I will randomly select a winner for the day. That person will then get a prize in the mail from me. Now, let me let you in on a little secret. In a typical month I have about 35 customers. So how many do you think I have on a single day? All you have to do is pick a day with very few shoppers and well...you are smart and can figure this out.

Okay, so you get how the giveaway works and now I bet you want to know what kind of prizes I am going to be giving away right? Some days I might tell you ahead of time what the prize of the day will be but most days I will randomly select the toy and then select the winner. Just know that every day there  will be a fun prize to be won. I will also announce the winner of the day on my Facebook page www.facebook.com/romaine33 so follow along there to find out if you have won. Below you will find the list of items that will be given away. Some items will be given away more then once. Also, take notice that all of these prizes are great but there are a a few of them in there that are exceptional!!

Boy Butter- $17 Value

Slimline G- $30 Value

Masturbation Sleeve Question Answered!

Hey Romaine,
I've been listening to the DNR show going on 6 years now (off and on) and am a fan of your dildo whisperer segment. I recently began thinking of getting a sleeve to masturbate with but am not sure which one would be the right "fit" for me. On your site, there are two (Sidekick and Reversible Stroker) that I thought could be a good starting point but am interested in getting your advice on which one would you recommend I should start with. I've never used any toys so exploring this arena is a new frontier, so to speak.


-Patrick
The Dildo Whisperer's Response

Patrick,
For a first time sleeve I would recommend the Side Kick.

 

Compared to the Reversible stroker it is much easier to clean and less up keep. The Reversible requires a little bit of extra attention to keep the material feeling soft and Side Kick you can always move up to the other strokers like the Stroker X and try them on for size. Not all strokers are created equal each one has its own unique qualities.

 

When you pick up a stroker you should pick up a good lube as well. I recommend Boy Butter for men when they are looking for a good masturbation lube. It is nice and thick and creamy. Try it and I bet you will agree it truly improves things.

I hope that helps and let me know if you ever have any other questions.

-Romaine
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Lasting Longer Question Answered!

Romaine,
So I have been listening to your program for about a year now and I must say that both you and Derek are just amazing. Anywho, I have a question that I want to ask. I am too shy to call so I decided to email. Ok just to be clear I am a gay man; so the question is when I am in a relationship with a partner and we go to have sex I am usually the bottom. However, every now and then I like to top my partner my problem is that I cant last long. As I enter I seem to blow quickly no matter how hard I try to hold back. It is just kind of a let down when I want to make it last long. Do you have any ideas on how to make this better or suggestions?
 
Jim
 
The Dildo Whisperer's Response
 
Hey Jim,


I have a couple of ways to help you deal with this issue.
1. You could get a desensitizing lube like Durex Play Longer and put that inside the your condom before fuckintg your boyfriend. That will help you from getting off as quickly by numbing up your dick a bit. Rememeber less is more when using this type of lube and you should follow the directions carefully.

2. This solution is going to require a little practice on your part but will have a longer lasting impact for you. When you masturbate I want you to pay close attention to your balls right before you cum. You will feel them pull up into your body just a bit as they prepare to shoot your load. Next, time you are masturbating and feel this sensation I want you to very carefully pull your balls back down and lay off the stroking for a few moments. This will keep you from cumming. Once you have regained your composure I want you to resume stroking. If you practice this excercise while masturbating you will find that you will over time be able to last longer. It is all about training your body to do what you want it to do and when!
3. The third and final option is to try a cock ring. Get a leather one that snaps or velcros or you could try a nice neoprene one and place your cock and balls throught it. This will prevent the blood from flowing out of your cock making you feel larger and harder. It will also prolong your orgasm a bit. You can even wear one as you are using either of the other two options mentioned above.

Velcro Cock Ring

Neoprene Cock Ring

I hope this helps. Let me know if you ever need any other ideas.

-Romaine
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Question about Lube

Romaine,
I need some help .... my husband is dead set on using Ky because he likes the viscosity of it but it tends to dry out to quickly for me... Is there something you can recommend that's like a silicon gel to make us both happy, and another one for toy play.
Thanks
Mike

Wet just came out with a new lube called Synergy.

It is pretty think and it is a combination water/silicone base so it won't dry out but should feature the qualities that he likes in KY. You can pick up Wet Synergy from my friends over at www.cheaplubes.com. Or you can always choose from the great selection of lubes that I carry at the Dildo Whisperer Online Store. I think you would like the Boy Butter H2O.

You need to stress to your partner the importance of having a good lube and one way of doing that is by explaining that the chemistry of lube has come along way since the days of KY. After all KY was not designed to be used for sexual intercourse. It was designed to be a surgical lubricant for doctors to use during exams. Today, we have lubes being specifically designed for the friction caused by intercourse. These lubes glide better and provide a much safer sexual experience. So tell your guy you need to make a switch for health and safety reasons and I think he will be shocked by the quality of lubes available.

-Romaine

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Your Questions Answered!

So I have been getting a ton of questions lately at my email address romaine@eatromaine.com from people asking all kinds of stuff about sex and sex toys. I figured that instead of just answering their questions I would post some of the questions and answers I provided here on the Dildo Whisperer Blog. Names will always be changed to protect the identity of the person asking the question. 




I am looking to get a strap on. Do you suggest the beginner kit. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks
-BN

Hey BN,

Thanks for emailing me. I am happy to help you find the right strap on. I like to buy my harness and dildo seperately so I can pair the best toys to fit my needs. Sometimes when you buy a kit you get a great harness but the wrong size toy. Buy buying them seperately you build a strap on that is just right for your needs.

 

For the sake of this email I am going to suggest only a few items but if you want some other options let me know and I will look into a few for you.

 

Let's start with a couple of harness options.

Velvet Vibrating Harness

This harness is comfy to wear and have a small bullet vibe to clit stimulation of the wearer. Not a super expensive harness and a good beginner one. It has a snap in O ring that can be switched out for other sized dildos and it is machine washable. 

Not sure what the size is of who will be wearing the harness but if you are a big girl like me you might want to check out this harness:

Diva Plus Size Harness

Diva is a harness made to fit a bigger body but it also has a wider strap to help keep the harness close to your body during use. It also features the snap in O rings that can be switched out for smaller or larger dildos. 
This next one is a little more high end and made of leather.

Jaguar Harness

This harness has a Jock Style strap in the back and features a snap out O ring that can be changed to  so you can use any size dildo. 
OKAY Now Let's talk dildos--- I am going to recommend getting a goold silicone dildo. Silicone is made to last so one of these dildos will last you a life time.

Charmer

This is a nice average size dildo with a nice g-spotting series or ridges down the shaft. It is made by Tantus and is made out of a high quality Silicone and features a flared base so it will fit nicely in a harness. 

Acute

I little bit shorter then the Charmer but is specifically designed to stimulate the g-spot because it features a slight curve. 

It is made by Tantus and is made out of a high quality silicone and also has a flared base so it will fit nicely in a harness. 

These are a couple of good places to start but if they aren't exactly the right fit for what you are looking for let me know and I can offer a few more suggestions.

-Romaine 

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