Valentine's Day- Lube up! A gift for your guy. Part V

It is time for me to divulge my fifth final Valentine’s Day gift idea for the man in your life. I spent some time thinking about what should be the final item and I decided on a simple but most important item. If a guy doesn’t have this in his bedside table then he is surely missing out.

5. LUBE!

Lube is one of the most important items needed to make sure a guy has a healthy and active sex life. Guys can use it for jacking off, having sex, playing with toys and is a REQUIREMENT for anal sex! Lube is such a necessary item for sexual activity that the lube industry has taken off. There are entire websites dedicated to all things lube. With so many new brands and types it is easy to get confused. But fear not dear reader, the Dildo Whisperer is here to help you navigate these slippery waters!

Boy Butter (Original) – Use to Jack off!

Boy Butter (Original) is the only Boy Butter lube I currently carry in the Dildo Whisperer Online Store but we carry it in two different size and containers. Even though there are several other Boy Butter Lubes out there for the sake of this entry I am going to focus on the Boy Butter (Original Formula). Boy Butter designs all their lubes to be a cream style lube which is why they are so great to jack off with. This lube is nice and thick and will feel great when paired with your hand or favorite jack off toy. Another great attribute of Boy Butter is that it washes off with a little soap and water. Meaning you don't have to worry about stains on your sheets or a difficult clean up.

Boy Butter (Original) is an oil-based lubricant that is made up from two very gentle ingredients: coconut oil and organic silicone. These ingredients are then homogenized just like real butter and the end result is a long lasting creamy lubricant. This lube is hypoallergenic and is safe on all toys. However, there is one VERY IMPORTANT thing I must tell you about. Because this lube is oil-based it is not compatible with any latex safer sex supplies like latex condoms. So this lube is best used for solo play or sex with a trusted partner.
Active Ingredients: Coconut Oil and organic Silicone
Applications: Masturbation, Sex Toy Play, Anal Sex

Warnings: Do not use with Latex Condoms, NOT latex compatible.

Accessories: Your hand, Male Strokers/ Masturbation Sleeves, Sex toys

Rating: *** 3 out of 5 stars

Love U Water Lubricant- Use for Sex, Masturbation and with Toys.

Water based lubricants have been around for many years. These lubes will keep your skin from facing abrasive friction and will help your bouts of sex last longer. But perhaps the most important thing this lube will do is help protect the delicate skin around your naughty parts. There are a million different types of water based lubes in the market and many of them are very good. But there are a few things you want to make sure you avoid. The two biggest things to avoid in your water based lube are Glycerin and Parabens. These ingredients can lead to some rather unpleasant reactions from your body. (I’ve been there and take it from me it sucks.) To avoid these ingredients it is best to go with a brand you trust. Love U Water Lubricant is made to be gentle on your sexy bits and doesn’t contain any harmful chemicals or ingredients that will make your sexy bits feel not so sexy. Because this lube is water based it can be used with virtually every sex toy made and it is super easy to wash off. This lube will not stain and will not become sticky like a lot of other water based lubes do. If this lube starts to dry out a little bit of water will make it super slippery all over again! Give the Love U Water Lubricant a try and it will Love U as much as you love it.

Active Ingredients: Water, Propanediol, Hydroxypropyl Methylcellulose, Xanthan Gum, Hydroxyethylcellulose, Sodium Benzoate, Patasium Sorbate, Citric Acid.

Applications: Vaginal Sex, Masturbation, Anal Sex, Safe with Most toys

Other Information: Glycerin Free. Paraben Free. Naturally Derived. Vegan. DEA Free.

Rating: **** 4 out of 5 Stars
Love U Silicone Lubricant – Use for Sex and Masturbation or Sex in the Shower

Silicone lubes are no joke. These lubes are designed to be super slick and last really long. They have tons of benefits but they also have a few down sides. Let’s start with what makes these lubes rock. A silicone based lube is going to stay slick until you wash it off. So you don’t have to worry about your lube drying out or wearing off and it will never get sticky. Silicone lubes are also water proof. So you can put in on and have shower or hot tub sex without it washing away. The Love U Silicone Lubricant comes with all of these great qualities plus it is hypoallergenic and will help protect your most delicate skin. This lube is best when used for skin on skin applications like a hand job or sex. However, the Love U Silicone Lubricant has all kinds of uses outside of sex as well! For instance, I have heard of people using the Love U Silicone Lubricant as a shaving cream to help get a nice smooth shave without out skin irritation. I’ve even heard of people using a small amount to help give their hair a little extra shine.

There are a couple of things to keep in mind though when considering a silicone lubricant. These lubes don’t wash off easily. They require a little soap and water so clean up can be a little more difficult. If you have hard wood floors try to avoid spilling this stuff on them because it can make the floor slick with slick on top. (Been there, done that…I almost died! Another story for another day) Last but not least, do not use a silicone lube with a silicone toy. This can result in the silicone lube bonding onto the toy and ruining it. It is a very costly mistake that you do not want to make. So NO silicone lube on silicone toy action please.

The Love U Silicone Lube is everything you want in a good silicone lube and the best part is that you know with this lube you are getting the highest quality lube because it is coming from the Love U brand. Love U is dedicated to making sure non of their products contains harmful chemicals or ingredients so you can be sure your sexy bits are safe. If you want a slick lube that is designed to last look no further then Love U Silicone Lubricant.
Active Ingredients: Cyclopentasiloxane, Dimethicone, Dimethiconol

Applications: Sex, Masturbation, Sex in the Water and use with non-silicone toys.

Other Information: Hypoallergenic. Glycerin Free. Paraben Free. Naturally Derived. Vegan. DEA Free.

Rating: **** 4 out of 5 Stars

Lube is and will always be one of the most basic items that you should have when engaging in any form of sex. If you have never used it before then you are really missing out. If you ever have questions about which lube to use for a specific application please ask the Dildo Whisperer and I will happily help you out. You can find all of the lubes mentioned in this entry at the Dildo Whisperer's Online Store in the "Bath, Body & Wellness" Section.

This concludes my Valentine's Day -Gift For Your Guy series. Get one or all of these products and I guarantee that that man in your life will continue to love you for a very long time. Even if that man is yourself. We all deserve a little something special on Valentine's Day so go on and treat yourself or the man you love today!

If you have a sex or sex toy question that you want answered, email the Dildo Whisperer at romaine@eatromaine.com. Or if you have a specific toy from my online store that you want the Dildo Whisperer to review let me know. The Dildo Whisperer is also available for Private Consultations. Simply send an email to romaine@eatromaine.com to request a one on one conversation.

Valentine's Day- Stroke This! A gift for your guy -Part IV

Men Masturbate. The average guy jacks off at least once a day and some guys spend even more time getting off. That’s a lot of time to spend with a bottle of lube and your hand. Let’s face it day after day of the same thing will get pretty damn boring. I know there are a ton of great products out there for guys to use to get off. You can get a fake rubber face and fuck it. Or perhaps a pair of cyber skin feet to stroke your cock with? But that seems kind of complicated doesn’t it? For Valentine’s Day this year I want you to get the guy in your life a way to improve his jack off sessions without making them overly complicated. No one wants to spend tons of time cleaning up after getting off so for that reason I came up with my fourth toy suggestion to take the work and doldrums out of jacking off.

4. THE STROKER!!
These easy to use toys will take jacking off to a whole new level. Gone are the days of switching hands to create a new feel to jacking off. All you need is lube and a stroker and you are all set. Strokers are designed to be simple to use and easy to clean. If you haven't ever tried a stroker then it is time you do!




Stroker X

Different strokers have different capabilities. In the case of Stroker X you get a sensation that is very similar to the sensation that you get when your partner is having muscle contractions around the shaft of your cock. The interior of Stroker X has a series of soft ridges that will feel great on your shaft as you stroke it. This toy is made out of silicone and will not stretch in the same fashion as some of the other strokers I am about to review. Silicone is a slightly more firm material which makes you feel like you are actually holding onto something when you use this toy. Silicone is built to last so unlike some of the other strokers with the right amount of care Storker X will keep you happy for a good long time. The exterior of this toy is smooth and easy to grip as long as you don’t have a bunch of lube on your hands. I recommend pumping the lube directly into the stroker and then inserting your penis to avoid getting any on the outside.


Material: Silicone


Lube: Water Based Recommended


Cleaning: Turn inside Out and Wash with Soap and Water, Boilable, Bleachable and Dishwasher Safe (top Rack)


Rating: **** 4 out of 5 Stars


Side Kick

I didn’t know much about the Side Kick stroker until Ducky Doolittle gave me a demo of this toy in my radio studio one night. She pulled out the VIP dildo and said, “Watch this.” She lubed up the inside of the Side Kick and started stroking the dildo. As she did it she explained to me some of the features of the toy.


“Did you know that Side Kick has a ribbed interior for a nice textured sensation? And that you can flip inside out and use the smooth side for a totally different sensation?”


I stared at her hands moving up and down the shaft of VIP thinking about how good what she was doing must feel on a real guy. And then she started to speed up.
“Now, check this out,” she quipped. “Just about the time the guy is ready to come you hold onto the base of the Side Kick just at the base of his penis. Then with you other hand you pull the top portion over the tip of his cock!”


Her hands did just that. Just then her little demo all made sense. I knew what she was trying to show me. She created a vacuum inside the toy that when pulled over the tip created a sucking sensation.
In her sweetest voice she exclaimed, “You can literally swallow without actually having to do it!”


Now, I don’t know about you but I don’t know of many toys out there that can create the sensation of getting a blow job and having your partner swallow but Side Kick can do just that! Need I say more? I think not.


Material: TPR (Thermal Produced Rubber) Phthalate Free


Lube: Water Based Recommended


Cleaning: Turn inside Out and Wash with Soap and Water


Rating: ***** 5 out of 5 Stars


Reversible Stroker

The Reversible Stroker is made out of a cyber skin material to help create the feel of real skin. So when you slip this bad boy on your cock, be prepared for a very soft life like sensation. They call this toy the Reversible Stroker because one side features ridges while the other side features nubs. This toy is easy to turn inside out so you can pick the sensation you want at any time. It is like getting two toys in one. Cyber skin is a very neat and unique material. It is water proof and can be used in the shower or the hot tub. The only thing to keep in mind is that the cleaning of this toy requires a little special care. Make sure you wash it with soap and water and then let it completely air dry (inside and out). If it starts to get a tacky feel to it then put in a zip lock back with a little corn starch. Shake it up and then shake it off the excess.


Material: Cyber Skin
Lube: Water Based Recommended


Cleaning: Turn inside out and Wash with Soap and Water. Use corn starch if it gets “tacky”.


Rating: **** 4 out of 5 Stars

All of these strokers can be found in the "For Him" section of the Dildo Whisperer's Online Store.


If you have a sex or sex toy question that you want answered, email the Dildo Whisperer at romaine@eatromaine.com. Or if you have a specific toy from my online store that you want the Dildo Whisperer to review let me know. The Dildo Whisperer is also available for Private Consultations. Simply send an email to romaine@eatromaine.com to request a one on one conversation.

Valentine's Day-Gifts for your guy- Part II

Valentine’s day gifts are tricky. I like to get a gift that will expand the relationship in new ways. For many people that can mean trying something new or trying something in a new way. The most commonly asked questions I get often feature the ass. There are many more people that are interested in anal sex then there aren’t or at least that has been my experience. For that reason I came up with my second selection for gifts you should get your guy to try!

2. Butt Plugs!

When considering trying a butt plug there are a few things you should know. The first is that you ALWAYS need to use lube. Your ass doesn’t self lubricate like a vagina so lube is required. The skin around your anus is very thin and sensitive and the last thing you want is friction that will cause that skin to tear. The second thing you should know is about your ass itself. The rectum doesn’t have a back wall, which means that if a toy goes all the way in it can be very hard to remove without an emergency visit to the doctor. For this reason you should never stick anything in your ass that isn't designed to be there. Every year ER’s around the country get visits from patients who think that putting a sharpie or other odd shaped objects in their ass is a good idea. It is not. Toys that are designed to go in the ass should have either a flared based that prevents the toy from going in further then intended or it should have a loop handle that can be used to remove the toy easily. This risk shouldn’t prevent you from having fun with your ass it should simply encourage you to use toys that are safe for it. Last but not least never take a toy out of your ass and put it in a vagina. The rectum is filled with bacteria that helps aide in digestion but that bacteria can lead to some very unpleasant problems if introduced to the vagina. Now, that you know the basics let’s talk butt plugs.

Little Flirt

Little Flirt is exactly as the name suggests, little. Which makes it the perfect first time anal toy. This silicone plug is about the size of a finger. It isn’t designed to “fill you up” like other plugs. Instead, it is designed to teach your sphincter muscle how to relax when a toy is introduced to it. It helps the anus get used to the feeling and sensation of a toy in it without the stress of jamming something large in there. Make sure you use plenty of lube and slide this toy in. Due to its size it might slide back out but if it does just re-insert it and focus on your muscles holding it in place. Once your body has gotten used to the sensation of ass play you can move up to larger toys. If you have been thinking of trying anal action but are unsure about the pain. Try Little Flirt out and see how much fun flirting with your ass can be.

Material: Silicone

Lube: Water Based Recommended

Cleaning: Soap and Water, Boilable, Bleachable, and Dishwasher Safe

Rating: *** 3 out of 5 Stars

Ryder

Ryder is a more advanced butt plug. This silicone plug is larger in size and features a very narrow neck. Tantus Inc. who makes this toy literally designed every aspect of it to make sure it is comfortable and stays in place. The top of this plug is rounded and smooth so it slides in with little work. The narrow neck near the base ensures that the sphincter closes up tightly around it. Plus, the rectangle base is shaped so it will fit comfortably between your ass checks but has enough of a flare to keep it from going in to far. Your cheeks will also help keep this toy from going anywhere. Due to the shape and size of Ryder it will give you that “filled up” sensation that many people look for from anal toys. Take Ryder out for a ride and I doubt you will be disappointed.

Materials: Silicone

Lube: Water Based Recommended

Cleaning: Soap and Water, Boilable, Bleachable, and Dishwasher Safe

Rating: **** 4 out of 5 Stars

Pace

Pace is a member of the Tantus Alumina line. You might remember my previous blog about Flow also from this line of toys. Pace like the other toys in the Alumina line is made out of a sleek anodized aluminum that is smooth to the touch. This smooth surface will make for an easy entry with Pace. You can use the lager end of the toy to give you the “full” sensation or to deliver a nice P-Spot massage. Or you can use the other end of this toy for a completely different sensation. Due to the fact that Pace is made out of aluminum it has some pretty interesting benefits. For instance, Pace has the ability to cool down or warm up very quickly. A little dip in cool or warm water will help you create some really exciting sensation play.  Aluminum is also kind of heavy. People who enjoy the sensation of a butt plug will also often enjoy the weightiness of a metal toy. But, perhaps the coolest feature from the Tantus Alumina line is that they are all made of two independent parts. See that little black O ring just under the head of Pace? That is where the toy screws apart. You can then take the two pieces and pair them up with another piece from the Alumina line. You can literally create all new toys! The more Alumina toys you have the more choices you have. They are all completely interchangeable.

Material: Black Anodized Aluminum

Size: Length 5” Diameter 1.25”

Lube: Water or Silicone Based Recommended

Cleaning: Soap and Water

Rating: **** 4 out of 5 Stars

Now, that you have seen three incredibly different toys for anal action don’t you want to get one for the man in your life. Oh and just for the record the ladies can also enjoy all of these toys!  I have each of them in my personal toy box. You can find all of these butt plugs in the “Toys” Section of the Dildo Whisperer Online Store.

If you have a sex or sex toy question that you want answered, email the Dildo Whisperer at romaine@eatromaine.com. Or if you have a specific toy from my online store that you want the Dildo Whisperer to review let me know. The Dildo Whisperer is also available for Private Consultations. Simply send an email to romaine@eatromaine.com to request a one on one conversation.

A tale of a boy and his Boy Butter.

Long before I was a host on Sirius/XM radio I was a budding dildo whisperer. All of my teenage nephews knew that when they were ready to become sexually active to call me and I would send them a discreet "care package" filled with everything they would need to practice safe sex. They got lube packets, safe sex pamphlets and of course tons of condoms. I was the cool aunt that never told their parents but always made sure that they were playing safe. 

Years after I sent my nephew Raif his first care package we were talking on the phone. No longer an awkward teenager but rather a young man in his early twenties he asked me if I had any good porn laying around the office. Of course I did because I always have an abundance of straight porn as I have little need for it. I grabbed a couple of good DVD's and threw them in a box. Then I spotted some containers of Boy Butter and thought he could probably use a little lube too. So into the box it went. I shipped the box off and didn't think anything of it. That is until the next time he and I spoke on the phone. During the course of the conversation he raved about the lube that I had sent him. At the time I couldn't even remember what brand I had sent him so I made him explain the package to me. He laughed a little and said, "well, it looks like a tub of butter". Ahh yes, Boy Butter. He went on to say that his jacking off had never felt better. Sure it was a little TMI but to be honest I was interested in his honest opinion on this brand of lube and he was more than willing rave on about it. He then asked if I would send him more because even though I had sent him a pretty good sized tub he had already used it all up. In less than 3 weeks I might add! That was all I needed to know that Eyal Feldman (the inventor of Boy Butter) had come up with a winner!

Now let's talk about Boy Butter!

Boy Butter comes in several formulas and containers but they all share a few traits. First, Boy Butter lubes are all a cream style lube. I like the creamy lubes because they really work well for men while they are jacking off but the creamy style also pairs nicely with anal sex. Secondly, the entire line of Boy Butter lubes washes off with a little soap and water. Meaning you don't have to worry about stains on your sheets or a difficult clean up. Anyone who had ever had a silicone lube stain on their bed sheets can tell you how this is a beneficial trait.

In terms of containers nearly all of the Boy Butter products come in one of three styles of containers. I suggest picking the container that best fits your needs.

1. A Tub (these vary in size from 4 oz &\ 8 oz)

2. The Squeeze Bottle (9 oz)

5. The EZ-Pump (5 oz)

The Boy Butter line up all started with Boy Butter.

Boy Butter comes with the yellow label and was the first lube in the Boy Butter Line up. Boy Butter is an oil-based lubricant that is made up from two very gentle ingredients: coconut oil and organic silicone. These ingredients are then homogenized just like real butter and the end result is a long lasting creamy lubricant. This lube is hypoallergenic and is safe on all toys. However, there is one VERY IMPORTANT thing I must tell you about. Because this lube is oil-based it is not compatible with any latex safer sex supplies like latex condoms. So this lube is best used for solo play or sex with a trusted partner. Currently, this is the only version of Boy Butter that we are carrying in my online store and it can be found in both of the containers pictured above under the "Bath, Body and Wellness" section of the store.

Active Ingredients: Coconut Oil and organic Silicone
Applications: Masturbation, Sex Toy Play, Anal Sex
Warnings: Do not use with Latex Condoms, NOT latex compatible.
Accessories: Your hand, Male Strokers/ Masturbation Sleeves, Sex toys
Rating: *** 3 out of 5 stars


You'll Never Know It Isn't Boy Butter (H2O Version)

Eyal Feldman understands the importance of safer sex practices which is why he came out with a water based version of his Boy Butter lube. This one appropriately called, "You'll Never Know It Isn't Boy Butter" is very similar to the original formula with a few small ingredient changes. This lube starts out as a water based gel lube that has Vitamin E and Shea butter added to it. The end result is a creamy lube that is safe for men or women and is latex compatible. This lube goes on clear and will last longer then most water based lubes. This means less time re-applying and more time enjoying yourself. It carries the same non-staining and easy clean up attributes as the Original Boy Butter but with the added bonus of safe sex compatibility.

Active Ingredients: Water based Gel lubricant, Vitamin E and Shea Butter
Applications: Use During Sex, Masturbation, Sex Toy Play, Anal Sex, Safe for Men or Women
Accessories: Your hand, Male Strokers/ Masturbation Sleeves, Sex toys
Rating: **** 4 out of 5 stars

There are additional products from Boy Butter but I will save those for another day. It is worth taking a few minutes to head over to the Boy Butter site though and checking the entire line out.

If you have a sex or sex toy question that you want answered, email the Dildo Whisperer at romaine@eatromaine.com. Or if you have a specific toy from my online store that you want the Dildo Whisperer to review let me know.

Wet Head

I'm a lesbian. I think it is safe to assume that being the Gold Star lesbian that I am that I have never given a man a blow job. So one might ask, "what can Romaine tell me that will help with my blow job technique?" This is a fair question. But just because I have never given a blowjob doesn't mean I don't know a thing or two that might help you. I know this much for sure. Blowjobs should be wet and lubed up! The more the better! You want your mouth to slip all over that shaft so you can deliver the best experience ever. Let's face facts; even the best "no flavor" lubes have a flavor. Sure it might be subtle but it might have enough of a taste that you just don't want to be licking it up while you give a blowjob. Even the yummy flavored lube can be a little over the top. Of course you can hope that you have enough spit to do your partner up right but most of the time that is just not the case. So what is a blowjob queen to do?

WET HEAD!

We have all seen those tasty little strips for fresh breath right? Well, Wet Head utilizes this technology but rather then freshen your breath these little strips help lube up your saliva. I don't know how these little strips do their magic but they really do work. They will turn your mouth into a slippery, wet place that will have your partner begging for more. These Wet Head strips aren't just for the pleasure of men either. I recently tried these strips out at home while I spent a little time working over my wife's clit. Wet Head is the perfect accessory for your tongue. Don't believe me? Try it out for yourself. You can find the lemon flavored Wet Head Strips in my new online store! The flavor isn't overwhelming but your new blowjob might be!

Material: Lemon Flavored Wet Head Strips
Count: 24
Details: Sugar Free, Travel Container
Rating: *** 3 out of 5 Stars