Masturbation Sleeve Question Answered!

Hey Romaine,
I've been listening to the DNR show going on 6 years now (off and on) and am a fan of your dildo whisperer segment. I recently began thinking of getting a sleeve to masturbate with but am not sure which one would be the right "fit" for me. On your site, there are two (Sidekick and Reversible Stroker) that I thought could be a good starting point but am interested in getting your advice on which one would you recommend I should start with. I've never used any toys so exploring this arena is a new frontier, so to speak.


-Patrick
The Dildo Whisperer's Response

Patrick,
For a first time sleeve I would recommend the Side Kick.

 

Compared to the Reversible stroker it is much easier to clean and less up keep. The Reversible requires a little bit of extra attention to keep the material feeling soft and Side Kick you can always move up to the other strokers like the Stroker X and try them on for size. Not all strokers are created equal each one has its own unique qualities.

 

When you pick up a stroker you should pick up a good lube as well. I recommend Boy Butter for men when they are looking for a good masturbation lube. It is nice and thick and creamy. Try it and I bet you will agree it truly improves things.

I hope that helps and let me know if you ever have any other questions.

-Romaine
Your Dildo Whisperer

If you have a sex or sex toy related question you would like to ask the Dildo Whisperer just send her an email at romaine@eatromaine.com. Don't forget you can find many of the toys she talks about at the Dildo Whisperer Online Store.

Valentine's Day- Lube up! A gift for your guy. Part V

It is time for me to divulge my fifth final Valentine’s Day gift idea for the man in your life. I spent some time thinking about what should be the final item and I decided on a simple but most important item. If a guy doesn’t have this in his bedside table then he is surely missing out.

5. LUBE!

Lube is one of the most important items needed to make sure a guy has a healthy and active sex life. Guys can use it for jacking off, having sex, playing with toys and is a REQUIREMENT for anal sex! Lube is such a necessary item for sexual activity that the lube industry has taken off. There are entire websites dedicated to all things lube. With so many new brands and types it is easy to get confused. But fear not dear reader, the Dildo Whisperer is here to help you navigate these slippery waters!

Boy Butter (Original) – Use to Jack off!

Boy Butter (Original) is the only Boy Butter lube I currently carry in the Dildo Whisperer Online Store but we carry it in two different size and containers. Even though there are several other Boy Butter Lubes out there for the sake of this entry I am going to focus on the Boy Butter (Original Formula). Boy Butter designs all their lubes to be a cream style lube which is why they are so great to jack off with. This lube is nice and thick and will feel great when paired with your hand or favorite jack off toy. Another great attribute of Boy Butter is that it washes off with a little soap and water. Meaning you don't have to worry about stains on your sheets or a difficult clean up.

Boy Butter (Original) is an oil-based lubricant that is made up from two very gentle ingredients: coconut oil and organic silicone. These ingredients are then homogenized just like real butter and the end result is a long lasting creamy lubricant. This lube is hypoallergenic and is safe on all toys. However, there is one VERY IMPORTANT thing I must tell you about. Because this lube is oil-based it is not compatible with any latex safer sex supplies like latex condoms. So this lube is best used for solo play or sex with a trusted partner.
Active Ingredients: Coconut Oil and organic Silicone
Applications: Masturbation, Sex Toy Play, Anal Sex

Warnings: Do not use with Latex Condoms, NOT latex compatible.

Accessories: Your hand, Male Strokers/ Masturbation Sleeves, Sex toys

Rating: *** 3 out of 5 stars

Love U Water Lubricant- Use for Sex, Masturbation and with Toys.

Water based lubricants have been around for many years. These lubes will keep your skin from facing abrasive friction and will help your bouts of sex last longer. But perhaps the most important thing this lube will do is help protect the delicate skin around your naughty parts. There are a million different types of water based lubes in the market and many of them are very good. But there are a few things you want to make sure you avoid. The two biggest things to avoid in your water based lube are Glycerin and Parabens. These ingredients can lead to some rather unpleasant reactions from your body. (I’ve been there and take it from me it sucks.) To avoid these ingredients it is best to go with a brand you trust. Love U Water Lubricant is made to be gentle on your sexy bits and doesn’t contain any harmful chemicals or ingredients that will make your sexy bits feel not so sexy. Because this lube is water based it can be used with virtually every sex toy made and it is super easy to wash off. This lube will not stain and will not become sticky like a lot of other water based lubes do. If this lube starts to dry out a little bit of water will make it super slippery all over again! Give the Love U Water Lubricant a try and it will Love U as much as you love it.

Active Ingredients: Water, Propanediol, Hydroxypropyl Methylcellulose, Xanthan Gum, Hydroxyethylcellulose, Sodium Benzoate, Patasium Sorbate, Citric Acid.

Applications: Vaginal Sex, Masturbation, Anal Sex, Safe with Most toys

Other Information: Glycerin Free. Paraben Free. Naturally Derived. Vegan. DEA Free.

Rating: **** 4 out of 5 Stars
Love U Silicone Lubricant – Use for Sex and Masturbation or Sex in the Shower

Silicone lubes are no joke. These lubes are designed to be super slick and last really long. They have tons of benefits but they also have a few down sides. Let’s start with what makes these lubes rock. A silicone based lube is going to stay slick until you wash it off. So you don’t have to worry about your lube drying out or wearing off and it will never get sticky. Silicone lubes are also water proof. So you can put in on and have shower or hot tub sex without it washing away. The Love U Silicone Lubricant comes with all of these great qualities plus it is hypoallergenic and will help protect your most delicate skin. This lube is best when used for skin on skin applications like a hand job or sex. However, the Love U Silicone Lubricant has all kinds of uses outside of sex as well! For instance, I have heard of people using the Love U Silicone Lubricant as a shaving cream to help get a nice smooth shave without out skin irritation. I’ve even heard of people using a small amount to help give their hair a little extra shine.

There are a couple of things to keep in mind though when considering a silicone lubricant. These lubes don’t wash off easily. They require a little soap and water so clean up can be a little more difficult. If you have hard wood floors try to avoid spilling this stuff on them because it can make the floor slick with slick on top. (Been there, done that…I almost died! Another story for another day) Last but not least, do not use a silicone lube with a silicone toy. This can result in the silicone lube bonding onto the toy and ruining it. It is a very costly mistake that you do not want to make. So NO silicone lube on silicone toy action please.

The Love U Silicone Lube is everything you want in a good silicone lube and the best part is that you know with this lube you are getting the highest quality lube because it is coming from the Love U brand. Love U is dedicated to making sure non of their products contains harmful chemicals or ingredients so you can be sure your sexy bits are safe. If you want a slick lube that is designed to last look no further then Love U Silicone Lubricant.
Active Ingredients: Cyclopentasiloxane, Dimethicone, Dimethiconol

Applications: Sex, Masturbation, Sex in the Water and use with non-silicone toys.

Other Information: Hypoallergenic. Glycerin Free. Paraben Free. Naturally Derived. Vegan. DEA Free.

Rating: **** 4 out of 5 Stars

Lube is and will always be one of the most basic items that you should have when engaging in any form of sex. If you have never used it before then you are really missing out. If you ever have questions about which lube to use for a specific application please ask the Dildo Whisperer and I will happily help you out. You can find all of the lubes mentioned in this entry at the Dildo Whisperer's Online Store in the "Bath, Body & Wellness" Section.

This concludes my Valentine's Day -Gift For Your Guy series. Get one or all of these products and I guarantee that that man in your life will continue to love you for a very long time. Even if that man is yourself. We all deserve a little something special on Valentine's Day so go on and treat yourself or the man you love today!

If you have a sex or sex toy question that you want answered, email the Dildo Whisperer at romaine@eatromaine.com. Or if you have a specific toy from my online store that you want the Dildo Whisperer to review let me know. The Dildo Whisperer is also available for Private Consultations. Simply send an email to romaine@eatromaine.com to request a one on one conversation.

A tale of a boy and his Boy Butter.

Long before I was a host on Sirius/XM radio I was a budding dildo whisperer. All of my teenage nephews knew that when they were ready to become sexually active to call me and I would send them a discreet "care package" filled with everything they would need to practice safe sex. They got lube packets, safe sex pamphlets and of course tons of condoms. I was the cool aunt that never told their parents but always made sure that they were playing safe. 

Years after I sent my nephew Raif his first care package we were talking on the phone. No longer an awkward teenager but rather a young man in his early twenties he asked me if I had any good porn laying around the office. Of course I did because I always have an abundance of straight porn as I have little need for it. I grabbed a couple of good DVD's and threw them in a box. Then I spotted some containers of Boy Butter and thought he could probably use a little lube too. So into the box it went. I shipped the box off and didn't think anything of it. That is until the next time he and I spoke on the phone. During the course of the conversation he raved about the lube that I had sent him. At the time I couldn't even remember what brand I had sent him so I made him explain the package to me. He laughed a little and said, "well, it looks like a tub of butter". Ahh yes, Boy Butter. He went on to say that his jacking off had never felt better. Sure it was a little TMI but to be honest I was interested in his honest opinion on this brand of lube and he was more than willing rave on about it. He then asked if I would send him more because even though I had sent him a pretty good sized tub he had already used it all up. In less than 3 weeks I might add! That was all I needed to know that Eyal Feldman (the inventor of Boy Butter) had come up with a winner!

Now let's talk about Boy Butter!

Boy Butter comes in several formulas and containers but they all share a few traits. First, Boy Butter lubes are all a cream style lube. I like the creamy lubes because they really work well for men while they are jacking off but the creamy style also pairs nicely with anal sex. Secondly, the entire line of Boy Butter lubes washes off with a little soap and water. Meaning you don't have to worry about stains on your sheets or a difficult clean up. Anyone who had ever had a silicone lube stain on their bed sheets can tell you how this is a beneficial trait.

In terms of containers nearly all of the Boy Butter products come in one of three styles of containers. I suggest picking the container that best fits your needs.

1. A Tub (these vary in size from 4 oz &\ 8 oz)

2. The Squeeze Bottle (9 oz)

5. The EZ-Pump (5 oz)

The Boy Butter line up all started with Boy Butter.

Boy Butter comes with the yellow label and was the first lube in the Boy Butter Line up. Boy Butter is an oil-based lubricant that is made up from two very gentle ingredients: coconut oil and organic silicone. These ingredients are then homogenized just like real butter and the end result is a long lasting creamy lubricant. This lube is hypoallergenic and is safe on all toys. However, there is one VERY IMPORTANT thing I must tell you about. Because this lube is oil-based it is not compatible with any latex safer sex supplies like latex condoms. So this lube is best used for solo play or sex with a trusted partner. Currently, this is the only version of Boy Butter that we are carrying in my online store and it can be found in both of the containers pictured above under the "Bath, Body and Wellness" section of the store.

Active Ingredients: Coconut Oil and organic Silicone
Applications: Masturbation, Sex Toy Play, Anal Sex
Warnings: Do not use with Latex Condoms, NOT latex compatible.
Accessories: Your hand, Male Strokers/ Masturbation Sleeves, Sex toys
Rating: *** 3 out of 5 stars


You'll Never Know It Isn't Boy Butter (H2O Version)

Eyal Feldman understands the importance of safer sex practices which is why he came out with a water based version of his Boy Butter lube. This one appropriately called, "You'll Never Know It Isn't Boy Butter" is very similar to the original formula with a few small ingredient changes. This lube starts out as a water based gel lube that has Vitamin E and Shea butter added to it. The end result is a creamy lube that is safe for men or women and is latex compatible. This lube goes on clear and will last longer then most water based lubes. This means less time re-applying and more time enjoying yourself. It carries the same non-staining and easy clean up attributes as the Original Boy Butter but with the added bonus of safe sex compatibility.

Active Ingredients: Water based Gel lubricant, Vitamin E and Shea Butter
Applications: Use During Sex, Masturbation, Sex Toy Play, Anal Sex, Safe for Men or Women
Accessories: Your hand, Male Strokers/ Masturbation Sleeves, Sex toys
Rating: **** 4 out of 5 stars

There are additional products from Boy Butter but I will save those for another day. It is worth taking a few minutes to head over to the Boy Butter site though and checking the entire line out.

If you have a sex or sex toy question that you want answered, email the Dildo Whisperer at romaine@eatromaine.com. Or if you have a specific toy from my online store that you want the Dildo Whisperer to review let me know.