Wednesday, February 17, 2010

Grab the Remote and Ride this Wave.

It seems like there are more and more toys coming out that feature remote controls. I love this concept for several reasons. First, it means you can actually look at the controls instead of just reaching down and trying to feel around for them. I really hate it when I am half way to my orgasm and I reach down to turn things up and end up turning things off! Let me tell you it ruins the mood. With a remote you can hold in your hand you never have to make such a terrible mistake because you will actually be able to see which buttons you are pushing. The second thing I like about remote controlled toys is the fun you can have with a partner that is in control of your remote. Imagine being across the room and controlling the vibration and toy play of your partner. Talk about control! This takes sex play to a whole new level. Now what do you say dear DW reader, are you ready to try your hand with a remote?

Remote Body Wave

This is a classic dual action toy. The Remote Body Wave has an insertable vibrating shaft that is curved for G-Spot action. Plus, this toy has a wave like section designed to make your clit hum! It is very similar design to the Rabbit Habit. The Remote Body Wave features 6 different functions of speed and pulsation that will have you riding the wave of pleasure for a good long time. The controls are easy to understand and this toy has a lighted display so you can see what you are doing even in the dark. It also has a one touch OFF button. This comes in handy for those times you get off and just can't take another second of stimulation. Hit one button and it all shuts down. You will notice that the Remote Body Wave has controls on the toy itself in addition to the remote control. That way you can still use this toy even if you misplace the remote. Speaking of the remote this baby works up to 20 feet away so you have lots of options when playing with it. Hold it in your free hand to control the toy during masturbation or when your partner has it inside you. Or you could give it to your partner and they can sit in the corner and watch you get off from a distance. Use your imagination and have fun! The Remote Body Wave is made of a safe TPR rubber that is free from Phthalates. So you know it is safe for your body. The total length of this toy is 9.5" but only about 4.5" of it is actually insertable. The diameter is 1.5" and the head of this toy has a nice rounded shape that will feel really great on your G-Spot. This bad boy needs one  9V Battery for the remote and 3 AAA batteries for the toy itself. When cleaning this toy you want to make sure that you don't get any water near or around the battery compartment. Getting water in this area will ruin the toy. I suggest the Afterglow Wipes to make cleaning up easier. In terms of lube you want to stick with something water based like the Love U Water Lubricant. The Remote Body Wave is a really fun and functional toy. You can use it alone or with a partner and will have lots of fun either way. If you are looking for the new way to play give the Remote Body Wave a try! You can find this toy in the "Toys" section of the Dildo Whisperer's online store.

Materials: TPR Rubber
Phthalate free
Size: Length 9.5" Diameter 1.5"
Vibration: 6 functions of Speed and Pulsation
Lube: Water Based Recommended
Cleaning: Afterglow Wipes, Soap and Water (Avoid getting in or around battery compartment)
Rating: **** 4 out of 5 Stars

Tuesday, February 16, 2010

Let there be LINKS!!!

Hello DW readers,
I just wanted to give you a quick update that starting today there will now be links here in the DW blog that direct you to the toys I am reviewing. So you don't have to go searching through my online store anymore! Just click away and you are good to go. New reviews coming soon!

Friday, February 5, 2010

Valentine's Day Gift Buying Guide- For The Ladies Out There!

Valentine’s Day is dedicated to the women of the world. Every year women wait patiently to see what their lover will offer up as a sign of their love and devotion. But picking the right gift is not always as easy as one might think. Since I spent so much time offering up gift ideas for the men this Valentine’s Day season I thought it was only fair to put together a small list for the ladies. This list is for the loving partners who just don’t know where to start looking for the right gift and for all you single ladies that deserve something special too. Just because you don’t have a lover doesn’t mean you don’t deserve a little something lovely.

Every woman should have a toy box and some toy boxes are more full then others. (You should see mine!) The list of items that I am going to cover is separated into categories depending on the type of item it is. It is up to you to pick the right category for the woman in your life.

Staple Items

There are certain items that every girl should have in her toy box. These items don’t have to be fancy to  get the job done but a girl would be lost without them.


There are two basic kinds of lubes that women should have in their toy box. A water based lube and a silicone based lube. The Love U Water Lubricant is designed to use when masturbating or having sex. It can also be used with any kind of sex toy and will wash off very easily. The Love U Silicone Lubricant is very slick and is perfect for masturbation and vaginal or anal sex. It is designed to stay slick and never dry out. Although, it requires soap and water to wash off and cannot be used with Silicone toys. For more information on these lubes see the previous entry of The Dildo Whisperer’s Blog.

Love U Water Lubricant
Active Ingredients: Water, Propanediol, Hydroxypropyl Methylcellulose, Xanthan Gum, Hydroxyethylcellulose, Sodium Benzoate, Patasium Sorbate, Citric Acid.
Applications: Vaginal Sex, Masturbation, Anal Sex, Safe with Most toys
Other Information: Glycerin Free. Paraben Free. Naturally Derived. Vegan. DEA Free.
Rating: **** 4 out of 5 Stars

Love U Silicone Lubricant
Active Ingredients: Cyclopentasiloxane, Dimethicone, Dimethiconol
Applications: Sex, Masturbation, Sex in the Water and use with non-silicone toys.
Other Information: Hypoallergenic. Glycerin Free. Paraben Free. Naturally Derived. Vegan. DEA Free.
Rating: **** 4 out of 5 Stars

Sensational Items

Making your partner feel good is the whole point of these items. I am firm believer that if your partner feels sexy and desirable that it will result in much better sexual encounters. We all like to be pampered from time to time so this Valentine’s Day take a few minutes to pamper and enjoy your partner.

Hot Heart Massager Paired with Massage Oil or Body Souffle

The Hot Heart Massager is perhaps the best item I carry in “Bath, Body & Wellness” section of the Dildo Whisperer’s Online Store. It starts out as a little liquid pouch but when you bend the inner metal disk it starts a chemical reaction that heats this heart up. It starts forming crystals inside the heart that generate heat and cause the heart to firm up a bit. Use the Hot Heart Massager to deliver a hot stone like massage to your partner. The heat last around 30 mins so you don’t have to worry about your hands getting tired. When you are done all you have to do is boil the heart in water to melt the crystals and you can use it again!

The Hot Heart Massager is best paired with either the Massage Oil or the Body Souffle lotion that I carry in the online store. Both of these items are made with organic ingredients and feel amazing on your skin. Each comes in two scents: Lemongrass & Coconut; Fresh Orange & Wild Ginger but neither scent is overwhelming. Using a nice massage lotion or oil makes giving the massage easier but it also make the entire experience more luxurious.

Hot Heart Massager
Materials: Re-usable Liquid Heart
Use with: Massage Oil or Lotion
Clean: Soap and Water (Boil for 10 mins to Re-use)
Rating: ***** 5 out of 5 Stars

Massage Oil
Materials: Organic Extracts and Oil
Scents: Lemongrass & Coconut; Fresh Orange & Wild Ginger
Clean: Soap and Water
Other Uses: Bath Oil or Shower Moisturizer
Rating: **** 4 out of 5 Stars

Body Souffle
Materials: Organic extracts, olive oil, shea butter, and mango butter.
Scents: Lemongrass & Coconut; Fresh Orange & Wild Ginger
Rating: **** 4 out of 5 Stars

Sweet Snow Body Powder

This snowy white powder is an amazing little treat in the bedroom. Sweet Snow Body Powder is made by a company called Shunga and comes in 2 flavors: Hney and Strawberry Champagne and is Sugar Free.You can use it to give an oil free massage. All you have to do is gently dust the Sweet Snow Powder all over your lover and start giving them a good old-fashioned rub down. The powder makes it easy for your hands to slide over their skin without any nasty friction. But if what you are looking for is a fun game to play this is what I would do with the Sweet Snow Body Powder. Before you head to the bedroom take the Body Powder and dust it on a few select sensual places on your body. Then tell your lover that they need to find all of the areas with their tongue!

Ingredients: aluminum starch octenyl-succinate, Corn starch, Aspartame, may contain Honey, Flavor (Aroma). Sugar Free
Flavors: Honey, Strawberry and Champagne
Size: 8 oz
Includes: Feather application brush
Rating: **** 4 out or 5 Stars

Erotic Items

Even in the best relationships you need to spice things up from time to time. You don’t have to get overly kinky but trying out a new fantasy can have its advantages. For this reason I think it is important to have something in your toy box for a rainy day. If you are tired of having sex the same way every time then it is time to try something a little erotic.

Whip and Tickle

You can play nice or you can play naughty. The choice is yours. One end features feathers for a fun little tickle while the other end has a rubber whip for taking things up a notch or two. Pair this with a soft blindfold and you are in for some real fun.

Materials: Black and White Feathers, Plastic Handle and Rubber Whip
Use With: A Soft Blind Fold
Rating: *** 3 out of 5 Stars

Bondage Tape

Bondage Tape is the coolest stuff . This bondage tape is non adhesive and is made out of vinyl. It sticks to itself but never to you. So you can use it to wrap around your wrists or feet to create a very safe and fun bondage type situation. The best part is that it is completely reusable! It is light weight and easy to pack so the next time you are going out for a sexy romp take this with you and make things even more interesting!

Material: Vinyl Tape, 2” wide x 50’
Water Proof and Easy to Clean
Rating: **** 4 out of 5 Stars

Under the Bed Restraints

Tying your partner to the bed has never been so easy or so much fun! These Under the Bed Restraints fit under any sized mattress and are completely adjustable. Tuck em under the mattress when not in use and pull em out whenever you want to play. This is a four point system that you can use to make sure your lover isn’t going anywhere. There are four Velcro cuffs included with this system so you aren’t left with any additional purchases you need to make in order to start playing. The Velcro cuffs leave your partner feeling safe as they can easily be removed. With the Under the Bed Restraints there is a lot of fun to be had. Shouldn’t you be enjoying some of it?

Materials: Nylon Webbing, Velcro Cuffs.
Size: (4) 60” Restraint Straps, (1) 60” Under the Bed Connector
Cleaning: Machine Washable
Rating: **** 4 out of 5 Stars

Luxury Items

Every toy box should have at least one luxury item. The kind that makes a girl’s toes curl with delight. While some of these toys cost a pretty penny I know many women who would pay 10 times the price for the pleasure these devices bring into their lives. When you give a girl a toy like this just know she will screaming her thanks to you over and over again!

Rabbit Habit

I'd like to introduce you to the toy that O Magazine calls the "Rolls Royce of sex toys" The Rabbit Habit! This toy will take you to places you have never been before. Don’t believe me? Then perhaps you should check out the “Sex and The City” episode where Charlotte was given one. She locked herself in her room and didn’t come out for days! Why? Because the Rabbit Habit can just be that good!

Here is how it all works. There is a shaft that twirls around in a small circular fashion and inside it are a number of "pearls" that rotate around the shaft to create G-Spot stimulation. Then attached to the base of the shaft there is a bullet vibe that is shaped like a rabbit. The ears are designed to reach up and tickle the clit. This toy has lots of moving parts so it isn't what I would call a silent toy but when it is doing its thing you won't care that it is louder than your other toys. It is designed to blow your mind and it delivers.

Materials: TPR Rubber (phthalate free)
Size: 9" length 1.5" diameter
Vibration: 2 types (Shaft and Clitoral) both have variable speeds
Batteries: 3 AA
Cleaning: Afterglow Wipes, Soap and water (DO NOT submerge in water and be careful of moving parts)
Lube: Water based lube
Rating: **** 4 out of 5 Stars

Wednesday, February 3, 2010

Valentine's Day- Lube up! A gift for your guy. Part V

It is time for me to divulge my fifth final Valentine’s Day gift idea for the man in your life. I spent some time thinking about what should be the final item and I decided on a simple but most important item. If a guy doesn’t have this in his bedside table then he is surely missing out.

5. LUBE!

Lube is one of the most important items needed to make sure a guy has a healthy and active sex life. Guys can use it for jacking off, having sex, playing with toys and is a REQUIREMENT for anal sex! Lube is such a necessary item for sexual activity that the lube industry has taken off. There are entire websites dedicated to all things lube. With so many new brands and types it is easy to get confused. But fear not dear reader, the Dildo Whisperer is here to help you navigate these slippery waters!

Boy Butter (Original) – Use to Jack off!

Boy Butter (Original) is the only Boy Butter lube I currently carry in the Dildo Whisperer Online Store but we carry it in two different size and containers. Even though there are several other Boy Butter Lubes out there for the sake of this entry I am going to focus on the Boy Butter (Original Formula). Boy Butter designs all their lubes to be a cream style lube which is why they are so great to jack off with. This lube is nice and thick and will feel great when paired with your hand or favorite jack off toy. Another great attribute of Boy Butter is that it washes off with a little soap and water. Meaning you don't have to worry about stains on your sheets or a difficult clean up.

Boy Butter (Original) is an oil-based lubricant that is made up from two very gentle ingredients: coconut oil and organic silicone. These ingredients are then homogenized just like real butter and the end result is a long lasting creamy lubricant. This lube is hypoallergenic and is safe on all toys. However, there is one VERY IMPORTANT thing I must tell you about. Because this lube is oil-based it is not compatible with any latex safer sex supplies like latex condoms. So this lube is best used for solo play or sex with a trusted partner.
Active Ingredients: Coconut Oil and organic Silicone
Applications: Masturbation, Sex Toy Play, Anal Sex

Warnings: Do not use with Latex Condoms, NOT latex compatible.

Accessories: Your hand, Male Strokers/ Masturbation Sleeves, Sex toys

Rating: *** 3 out of 5 stars

Love U Water Lubricant- Use for Sex, Masturbation and with Toys.

Water based lubricants have been around for many years. These lubes will keep your skin from facing abrasive friction and will help your bouts of sex last longer. But perhaps the most important thing this lube will do is help protect the delicate skin around your naughty parts. There are a million different types of water based lubes in the market and many of them are very good. But there are a few things you want to make sure you avoid. The two biggest things to avoid in your water based lube are Glycerin and Parabens. These ingredients can lead to some rather unpleasant reactions from your body. (I’ve been there and take it from me it sucks.) To avoid these ingredients it is best to go with a brand you trust. Love U Water Lubricant is made to be gentle on your sexy bits and doesn’t contain any harmful chemicals or ingredients that will make your sexy bits feel not so sexy. Because this lube is water based it can be used with virtually every sex toy made and it is super easy to wash off. This lube will not stain and will not become sticky like a lot of other water based lubes do. If this lube starts to dry out a little bit of water will make it super slippery all over again! Give the Love U Water Lubricant a try and it will Love U as much as you love it.

Active Ingredients: Water, Propanediol, Hydroxypropyl Methylcellulose, Xanthan Gum, Hydroxyethylcellulose, Sodium Benzoate, Patasium Sorbate, Citric Acid.

Applications: Vaginal Sex, Masturbation, Anal Sex, Safe with Most toys

Other Information: Glycerin Free. Paraben Free. Naturally Derived. Vegan. DEA Free.

Rating: **** 4 out of 5 Stars
Love U Silicone Lubricant – Use for Sex and Masturbation or Sex in the Shower

Silicone lubes are no joke. These lubes are designed to be super slick and last really long. They have tons of benefits but they also have a few down sides. Let’s start with what makes these lubes rock. A silicone based lube is going to stay slick until you wash it off. So you don’t have to worry about your lube drying out or wearing off and it will never get sticky. Silicone lubes are also water proof. So you can put in on and have shower or hot tub sex without it washing away. The Love U Silicone Lubricant comes with all of these great qualities plus it is hypoallergenic and will help protect your most delicate skin. This lube is best when used for skin on skin applications like a hand job or sex. However, the Love U Silicone Lubricant has all kinds of uses outside of sex as well! For instance, I have heard of people using the Love U Silicone Lubricant as a shaving cream to help get a nice smooth shave without out skin irritation. I’ve even heard of people using a small amount to help give their hair a little extra shine.

There are a couple of things to keep in mind though when considering a silicone lubricant. These lubes don’t wash off easily. They require a little soap and water so clean up can be a little more difficult. If you have hard wood floors try to avoid spilling this stuff on them because it can make the floor slick with slick on top. (Been there, done that…I almost died! Another story for another day) Last but not least, do not use a silicone lube with a silicone toy. This can result in the silicone lube bonding onto the toy and ruining it. It is a very costly mistake that you do not want to make. So NO silicone lube on silicone toy action please.

The Love U Silicone Lube is everything you want in a good silicone lube and the best part is that you know with this lube you are getting the highest quality lube because it is coming from the Love U brand. Love U is dedicated to making sure non of their products contains harmful chemicals or ingredients so you can be sure your sexy bits are safe. If you want a slick lube that is designed to last look no further then Love U Silicone Lubricant.
Active Ingredients: Cyclopentasiloxane, Dimethicone, Dimethiconol

Applications: Sex, Masturbation, Sex in the Water and use with non-silicone toys.

Other Information: Hypoallergenic. Glycerin Free. Paraben Free. Naturally Derived. Vegan. DEA Free.

Rating: **** 4 out of 5 Stars

Lube is and will always be one of the most basic items that you should have when engaging in any form of sex. If you have never used it before then you are really missing out. If you ever have questions about which lube to use for a specific application please ask the Dildo Whisperer and I will happily help you out. You can find all of the lubes mentioned in this entry at the Dildo Whisperer's Online Store in the "Bath, Body & Wellness" Section.

This concludes my Valentine's Day -Gift For Your Guy series. Get one or all of these products and I guarantee that that man in your life will continue to love you for a very long time. Even if that man is yourself. We all deserve a little something special on Valentine's Day so go on and treat yourself or the man you love today!

If you have a sex or sex toy question that you want answered, email the Dildo Whisperer at Or if you have a specific toy from my online store that you want the Dildo Whisperer to review let me know. The Dildo Whisperer is also available for Private Consultations. Simply send an email to to request a one on one conversation.

Monday, February 1, 2010

Valentine's Day- Stroke This! A gift for your guy -Part IV

Men Masturbate. The average guy jacks off at least once a day and some guys spend even more time getting off. That’s a lot of time to spend with a bottle of lube and your hand. Let’s face it day after day of the same thing will get pretty damn boring. I know there are a ton of great products out there for guys to use to get off. You can get a fake rubber face and fuck it. Or perhaps a pair of cyber skin feet to stroke your cock with? But that seems kind of complicated doesn’t it? For Valentine’s Day this year I want you to get the guy in your life a way to improve his jack off sessions without making them overly complicated. No one wants to spend tons of time cleaning up after getting off so for that reason I came up with my fourth toy suggestion to take the work and doldrums out of jacking off.

These easy to use toys will take jacking off to a whole new level. Gone are the days of switching hands to create a new feel to jacking off. All you need is lube and a stroker and you are all set. Strokers are designed to be simple to use and easy to clean. If you haven't ever tried a stroker then it is time you do!

Stroker X

Different strokers have different capabilities. In the case of Stroker X you get a sensation that is very similar to the sensation that you get when your partner is having muscle contractions around the shaft of your cock. The interior of Stroker X has a series of soft ridges that will feel great on your shaft as you stroke it. This toy is made out of silicone and will not stretch in the same fashion as some of the other strokers I am about to review. Silicone is a slightly more firm material which makes you feel like you are actually holding onto something when you use this toy. Silicone is built to last so unlike some of the other strokers with the right amount of care Storker X will keep you happy for a good long time. The exterior of this toy is smooth and easy to grip as long as you don’t have a bunch of lube on your hands. I recommend pumping the lube directly into the stroker and then inserting your penis to avoid getting any on the outside.

Material: Silicone

Lube: Water Based Recommended

Cleaning: Turn inside Out and Wash with Soap and Water, Boilable, Bleachable and Dishwasher Safe (top Rack)

Rating: **** 4 out of 5 Stars

Side Kick

I didn’t know much about the Side Kick stroker until Ducky Doolittle gave me a demo of this toy in my radio studio one night. She pulled out the VIP dildo and said, “Watch this.” She lubed up the inside of the Side Kick and started stroking the dildo. As she did it she explained to me some of the features of the toy.

“Did you know that Side Kick has a ribbed interior for a nice textured sensation? And that you can flip inside out and use the smooth side for a totally different sensation?”

I stared at her hands moving up and down the shaft of VIP thinking about how good what she was doing must feel on a real guy. And then she started to speed up.
“Now, check this out,” she quipped. “Just about the time the guy is ready to come you hold onto the base of the Side Kick just at the base of his penis. Then with you other hand you pull the top portion over the tip of his cock!”

Her hands did just that. Just then her little demo all made sense. I knew what she was trying to show me. She created a vacuum inside the toy that when pulled over the tip created a sucking sensation.
In her sweetest voice she exclaimed, “You can literally swallow without actually having to do it!”

Now, I don’t know about you but I don’t know of many toys out there that can create the sensation of getting a blow job and having your partner swallow but Side Kick can do just that! Need I say more? I think not.

Material: TPR (Thermal Produced Rubber) Phthalate Free

Lube: Water Based Recommended

Cleaning: Turn inside Out and Wash with Soap and Water

Rating: ***** 5 out of 5 Stars

Reversible Stroker

The Reversible Stroker is made out of a cyber skin material to help create the feel of real skin. So when you slip this bad boy on your cock, be prepared for a very soft life like sensation. They call this toy the Reversible Stroker because one side features ridges while the other side features nubs. This toy is easy to turn inside out so you can pick the sensation you want at any time. It is like getting two toys in one. Cyber skin is a very neat and unique material. It is water proof and can be used in the shower or the hot tub. The only thing to keep in mind is that the cleaning of this toy requires a little special care. Make sure you wash it with soap and water and then let it completely air dry (inside and out). If it starts to get a tacky feel to it then put in a zip lock back with a little corn starch. Shake it up and then shake it off the excess.

Material: Cyber Skin
Lube: Water Based Recommended

Cleaning: Turn inside out and Wash with Soap and Water. Use corn starch if it gets “tacky”.

Rating: **** 4 out of 5 Stars

All of these strokers can be found in the "For Him" section of the Dildo Whisperer's Online Store.

If you have a sex or sex toy question that you want answered, email the Dildo Whisperer at Or if you have a specific toy from my online store that you want the Dildo Whisperer to review let me know. The Dildo Whisperer is also available for Private Consultations. Simply send an email to to request a one on one conversation.