Your Questions Answered!

So I have been getting a ton of questions lately at my email address romaine@eatromaine.com from people asking all kinds of stuff about sex and sex toys. I figured that instead of just answering their questions I would post some of the questions and answers I provided here on the Dildo Whisperer Blog. Names will always be changed to protect the identity of the person asking the question. 




I am looking to get a strap on. Do you suggest the beginner kit. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks
-BN

Hey BN,

Thanks for emailing me. I am happy to help you find the right strap on. I like to buy my harness and dildo seperately so I can pair the best toys to fit my needs. Sometimes when you buy a kit you get a great harness but the wrong size toy. Buy buying them seperately you build a strap on that is just right for your needs.

 

For the sake of this email I am going to suggest only a few items but if you want some other options let me know and I will look into a few for you.

 

Let's start with a couple of harness options.

Velvet Vibrating Harness

This harness is comfy to wear and have a small bullet vibe to clit stimulation of the wearer. Not a super expensive harness and a good beginner one. It has a snap in O ring that can be switched out for other sized dildos and it is machine washable. 

Not sure what the size is of who will be wearing the harness but if you are a big girl like me you might want to check out this harness:

Diva Plus Size Harness

Diva is a harness made to fit a bigger body but it also has a wider strap to help keep the harness close to your body during use. It also features the snap in O rings that can be switched out for smaller or larger dildos. 
This next one is a little more high end and made of leather.

Jaguar Harness

This harness has a Jock Style strap in the back and features a snap out O ring that can be changed to  so you can use any size dildo. 
OKAY Now Let's talk dildos--- I am going to recommend getting a goold silicone dildo. Silicone is made to last so one of these dildos will last you a life time.

Charmer

This is a nice average size dildo with a nice g-spotting series or ridges down the shaft. It is made by Tantus and is made out of a high quality Silicone and features a flared base so it will fit nicely in a harness. 

Acute

I little bit shorter then the Charmer but is specifically designed to stimulate the g-spot because it features a slight curve. 

It is made by Tantus and is made out of a high quality silicone and also has a flared base so it will fit nicely in a harness. 

These are a couple of good places to start but if they aren't exactly the right fit for what you are looking for let me know and I can offer a few more suggestions.

-Romaine 

Your Dildo Whisperer

Most of the items mentioned above can be purchased at the Dildo Whisperer Online Store. IF you have a question you want the Didlo Whisperer to answer send it to her at romaine@eatromaine.com. 

URGE

Every once in a while a toy just blows your mind. For me the toy I'm about to review blew my mind because I couldn't believe that no one had come out with a toy like this before. This toy is simply brilliant and after my review you will understand why.

URGE

We've all seen those remote controlled vibrating panties before but Urge brings something completely new to the table. Not only is Urge a stunning toy made of anodized aluminum and silicone but it features a string of silicone so you can safely insert and remove this toy from inside your body! They makers of Urge put a lot of thought into this toy. It is waterproof so it can be used just about anywhere. Plus, the body of this toy is hour glass shaped for a perfect fit. The cord being coated in silicone makes it one of the most hygienically safe toys out there and the remote control puts the power of 5 speeds in the hands of the operator.

It doesn't matter if you are gay, straight, man or a woman everyone can benefit from the fun that Urge brings to the bedroom. One of the most seductive aspects about Urge is that you can hand your lover the remote and they have full control over your orgasm. But you don't have to turn over control, you can always use that remote as you see fit. Urge has so many ways you can use it that I thought I would go over just a few.

Let's start with you men out there. Vibration can be applied to a variety of parts on a man's body. Nipples are fun to play with but even more fun is applying Urge on the taint (the area just behind your balls but before your anus). This will give you guys out there an external prostate massage and it feels great. You can also insert the Urge orb into a condom and use it anally. Just make sure to use caution.

Ladies, many of you already understand the power of a good vibrating bullet. They can be used to bring our orgasms to new heights. Use Urge on your clit or slip it inside (like a tampon) and enjoy it on your G-Spot. The cord will make it easy to remove when you are done. You could always buy vibrating panties for those times you want to have fun in public but with Urge you don't need to buy a whole new toy. Just slip Urge inside and go have fun!

For you lesbians out there who enjoy harness play I bet there have been times that you wished there was a way that the person wearing the harness could have a little assistance in getting off. Am I right? There are lots of harnesses out there that feature little pockets for vibrating bullets on your clit like the Velvet Vibrating Harness that I carry in my online store. But what if you are someone that can only get off through G-Spot stimulation? Well, Urge can help you in ways you hadn't expected. The harness wearer can put Urge inside their pussy while your partner controls the remote. That way you both can have a hand in getting each other off! Talk about adding a whole new level of fun to strap on play!

Now, that you have a few examples of how you can use Urge you can understand why I was so excited when this toy was released. It really is revolutionary and to top it off it is made in a way that just screams luxury. Urge comes packaged in a sexy leather case that is worthy of the toy inside. The Orb of Urge is rechargeable and the remote runs on a 23A battery. Urge is made of the finest materials out there so you know it is designed last. What more could you want in a toy?

Don't you feel the URGE to go get one today?

Materials: anodized aluminum, silicone
Waterproof
Size: Orb length: 3" width: 1.5"; Remote length: 2.75" width: 2"
Vibration: 5 Speeds w/  Pink LED Remote control
Lube: Love U Water Lubricant recommended
Cleaning: Clean Orb with Soap and Water or Afterglow Wipes
Includes: power adapter, vanity tote, microfiber storage bag, product manual.
1-year product warranty
Rating: ***** 5 out of 5 Stars

For ladies who like it small. Size Doesn't always matter!

I have dated a number of women over the years and one thing I have found is that not every woman likes the same sized toy. My vagina is a "deep black hole that can never be filled" according to my co-host Derek. So I like a nice toy that is long and girthy. However, there are plenty of ladies that would run from my favorite dildo and say, "NO WAY!" Luckily, there are a few great companies out there that realize that sometimes our eyes are bigger then our pussies and sizing down isn't always a bad thing.

I have slowly been buying all of the toys that we carry in the Dildo Whisperer online store. I've been doing this for a couple of reasons. First, I think it is important to be able to hold a toy in my hot little hands if I am accurately going to be able to describe it. Second, I think that when people shop online it is hard to get a real feel for the size of things and I want to be able to assist them better. Third, I am going to start hosting Dildo Whisperer listener events where I help listeners sort through various toys to find the right one for them. It helps when you have the actual toys on hand for them to see. So the other day a toy arrived that I had never actually handled. Being very familiar with the Tantus line of toys I knew that I could expect a high quality silicone dildo with a nice flared base but I was slightly surprised when I saw this toy. I guess I should have paid more attention to its name.

Compact

The most noticeable difference about this toy was the size of it. Compact is just that, compact. It has all of the features you want from a great toy but in a much smaller package. As you can see it features a nice G-Spotting curve along with a rippled shaft for added pleasure. The flared base will make it compatible with harness play but make sure you have a small "O" ring to hold it in place. Compact is also a really wonderful starter anal toy for those that are fearful of pain caused by a larger toy. Generally, people think you can't find a toy like this in a small slender size but Compact delivers on all fronts. So I know you are asking just how big is it, right? Let's start with the girth. It is 1" in diameter that's about the size of your thumb. It is 5.25" in length. The nice thing about having a toy that isn't overly long is that you can really getting to pounding hard while wearing a harness without the pain caused by a toy hitting the cervix or back wall of the vagina. For some women this will be a major plus. I think Compact is a must have toy if you have a woman in your life that has a slender vaginal opening that just isn't into most of the toys out there. I have to admit I was relieved to see Compact because finally I have the answer for all those ladies out there like my lovely wife that just don't want some big ass toy in their va jay jay.

Material: Black Silicone
Size: 1" diameter; 5.25" length
Lube: Love U Water or any water based lube recommended
Cleaning: Soap and Water, Afterglow Wipes, Dishwasher safe, Bleachable and Boilable
Accessories: Velvet Vibrating Harness, Diva Plus Size Harness
Rating: **** 4 out of 5 Stars

If you have a sex or sex toy question that you want answered, email the Dildo Whisperer at romaine@eatromaine.com Or if you have a specific toy from my online store that you want the Dildo Whisperer to review let me know. The Dildo Whisperer is also available for Private Consultations. Simply send an email to romaine@eatromaine.com to request a one on one conversation.