Wednesday, February 3, 2010

Valentine's Day- Lube up! A gift for your guy. Part V

It is time for me to divulge my fifth final Valentine’s Day gift idea for the man in your life. I spent some time thinking about what should be the final item and I decided on a simple but most important item. If a guy doesn’t have this in his bedside table then he is surely missing out.

5. LUBE!

Lube is one of the most important items needed to make sure a guy has a healthy and active sex life. Guys can use it for jacking off, having sex, playing with toys and is a REQUIREMENT for anal sex! Lube is such a necessary item for sexual activity that the lube industry has taken off. There are entire websites dedicated to all things lube. With so many new brands and types it is easy to get confused. But fear not dear reader, the Dildo Whisperer is here to help you navigate these slippery waters!

Boy Butter (Original) – Use to Jack off!

Boy Butter (Original) is the only Boy Butter lube I currently carry in the Dildo Whisperer Online Store but we carry it in two different size and containers. Even though there are several other Boy Butter Lubes out there for the sake of this entry I am going to focus on the Boy Butter (Original Formula). Boy Butter designs all their lubes to be a cream style lube which is why they are so great to jack off with. This lube is nice and thick and will feel great when paired with your hand or favorite jack off toy. Another great attribute of Boy Butter is that it washes off with a little soap and water. Meaning you don't have to worry about stains on your sheets or a difficult clean up.

Boy Butter (Original) is an oil-based lubricant that is made up from two very gentle ingredients: coconut oil and organic silicone. These ingredients are then homogenized just like real butter and the end result is a long lasting creamy lubricant. This lube is hypoallergenic and is safe on all toys. However, there is one VERY IMPORTANT thing I must tell you about. Because this lube is oil-based it is not compatible with any latex safer sex supplies like latex condoms. So this lube is best used for solo play or sex with a trusted partner.
Active Ingredients: Coconut Oil and organic Silicone
Applications: Masturbation, Sex Toy Play, Anal Sex

Warnings: Do not use with Latex Condoms, NOT latex compatible.

Accessories: Your hand, Male Strokers/ Masturbation Sleeves, Sex toys

Rating: *** 3 out of 5 stars

Love U Water Lubricant- Use for Sex, Masturbation and with Toys.

Water based lubricants have been around for many years. These lubes will keep your skin from facing abrasive friction and will help your bouts of sex last longer. But perhaps the most important thing this lube will do is help protect the delicate skin around your naughty parts. There are a million different types of water based lubes in the market and many of them are very good. But there are a few things you want to make sure you avoid. The two biggest things to avoid in your water based lube are Glycerin and Parabens. These ingredients can lead to some rather unpleasant reactions from your body. (I’ve been there and take it from me it sucks.) To avoid these ingredients it is best to go with a brand you trust. Love U Water Lubricant is made to be gentle on your sexy bits and doesn’t contain any harmful chemicals or ingredients that will make your sexy bits feel not so sexy. Because this lube is water based it can be used with virtually every sex toy made and it is super easy to wash off. This lube will not stain and will not become sticky like a lot of other water based lubes do. If this lube starts to dry out a little bit of water will make it super slippery all over again! Give the Love U Water Lubricant a try and it will Love U as much as you love it.

Active Ingredients: Water, Propanediol, Hydroxypropyl Methylcellulose, Xanthan Gum, Hydroxyethylcellulose, Sodium Benzoate, Patasium Sorbate, Citric Acid.

Applications: Vaginal Sex, Masturbation, Anal Sex, Safe with Most toys

Other Information: Glycerin Free. Paraben Free. Naturally Derived. Vegan. DEA Free.

Rating: **** 4 out of 5 Stars
Love U Silicone Lubricant – Use for Sex and Masturbation or Sex in the Shower

Silicone lubes are no joke. These lubes are designed to be super slick and last really long. They have tons of benefits but they also have a few down sides. Let’s start with what makes these lubes rock. A silicone based lube is going to stay slick until you wash it off. So you don’t have to worry about your lube drying out or wearing off and it will never get sticky. Silicone lubes are also water proof. So you can put in on and have shower or hot tub sex without it washing away. The Love U Silicone Lubricant comes with all of these great qualities plus it is hypoallergenic and will help protect your most delicate skin. This lube is best when used for skin on skin applications like a hand job or sex. However, the Love U Silicone Lubricant has all kinds of uses outside of sex as well! For instance, I have heard of people using the Love U Silicone Lubricant as a shaving cream to help get a nice smooth shave without out skin irritation. I’ve even heard of people using a small amount to help give their hair a little extra shine.

There are a couple of things to keep in mind though when considering a silicone lubricant. These lubes don’t wash off easily. They require a little soap and water so clean up can be a little more difficult. If you have hard wood floors try to avoid spilling this stuff on them because it can make the floor slick with slick on top. (Been there, done that…I almost died! Another story for another day) Last but not least, do not use a silicone lube with a silicone toy. This can result in the silicone lube bonding onto the toy and ruining it. It is a very costly mistake that you do not want to make. So NO silicone lube on silicone toy action please.

The Love U Silicone Lube is everything you want in a good silicone lube and the best part is that you know with this lube you are getting the highest quality lube because it is coming from the Love U brand. Love U is dedicated to making sure non of their products contains harmful chemicals or ingredients so you can be sure your sexy bits are safe. If you want a slick lube that is designed to last look no further then Love U Silicone Lubricant.
Active Ingredients: Cyclopentasiloxane, Dimethicone, Dimethiconol

Applications: Sex, Masturbation, Sex in the Water and use with non-silicone toys.

Other Information: Hypoallergenic. Glycerin Free. Paraben Free. Naturally Derived. Vegan. DEA Free.

Rating: **** 4 out of 5 Stars

Lube is and will always be one of the most basic items that you should have when engaging in any form of sex. If you have never used it before then you are really missing out. If you ever have questions about which lube to use for a specific application please ask the Dildo Whisperer and I will happily help you out. You can find all of the lubes mentioned in this entry at the Dildo Whisperer's Online Store in the "Bath, Body & Wellness" Section.

This concludes my Valentine's Day -Gift For Your Guy series. Get one or all of these products and I guarantee that that man in your life will continue to love you for a very long time. Even if that man is yourself. We all deserve a little something special on Valentine's Day so go on and treat yourself or the man you love today!

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  1. hey hey hey, i got the nerve to call in and ask a question my heart was racing thinking that i would go live with you and derek sadly i missed your segment so sam directed me to this post, i was curious about those anal lube that desensitize are they good for jacking off too?

  2. You can use them for jacking off but they will still numb things up. I would only use a small amount to avoid losing all the feeling in your cock.

  3. sweet thanks for the reply hun luv ur show ;)